Dating Tips for Women

• Package your femininity. Make sure you look great before you go on a date. Men are visual and you only get one shot!
  
  
• Expand your cultural interests. You might discover a new passion, you will definitely meet new people, and you will be more interesting when the right person shows up.
  
  
• Network, network, network. You never know, that new girl who you met might just have an adorable single brother.
  
  
• Make sure you find balance between work and your social life. Don't hide behind your desk. Be brave and get out there.
  
  
• It is important to love yourself first before you can be in a loving relationship. So while you are working on the outside, make sure you feel good on the inside.
  
  

Socializing

• Make finding the "guy" like a second job. Get out there, go where men are, make eye contact and flirt. Let him know that you are interested. After all, men are afraid of rejection too.
  
  
• Go to at least one social event a week and get comfortable being in a social environment. It's important to feel at ease around men. Men find confidant women very attractive.
  
  
• Practice flirting on a daily basis. In the grocery store, in an elevator, in line at the airport...think of it as stretching exercises!
  
  
• Don't go out with packs of women. Three total is a great number. If a guy is alone and wants to talk with you, he most likely won't walk over to a crowd of girls.
  
  
• Make sure you seem approachable. Smile, have fun, look open and ready to meet someone fabulous.
  
  

The Dating Process

• Don't talk on the phone for more than 10 minutes before a first date. Spark his curiosity and leave something for the first date.
  
  
• Don't go on a date straight from work. Make sure you leave time to go home, luxuriate in a bath, have a glass of wine, and get in the mood.
  
  
• Make a list of 5 "must haves" and 5 "dealbreakers." These can be used for screening potential partners. Writing the list will make you start thinking about what you are really looking for.
  
  
• If you are looking for a monogamous relationship that can lead to marriage, make sure you ONLY date available men.
  
  
• Don't make quick judgments. Too often you are stacking the odds against yourself. Get to know him.
  
  
• Wear something feminine or stylish on a date, but never too sexy. That will send the wrong message.
  
  
• Never be too available for a guy. Men LOVE what they have to fight for.
  
  
• When you start dating a guy you are just wild about, continue to date several other men as well in order not to focus obsessively on him.
  
  
• Get vital information. Men love to talk about themselves, so over dinner in a subtle and caring way, find out all about his past and his future goals.
  
  
• Let the man make the moves. Don't ask when you will get together again,and if he doesn't ask you out for a second date within a two week period (maybe he is traveling or sick) DO NOT CALL HIM! Rip up his card,delete him from your phone and move on.
  
  
• If you don't hear from him after a second or a third date, don't make excuses for him. If he wants you, he knows how to find you.
  

Dating Tips for Men

• When you are calling a woman for the first date and you get her answering machine, leave a message with your contact numbers. Don't wait until you get her live. After all, most desirable women aren't sitting home by the phone.
  
  
• Plan a nice evening. Don't show up and say "where should we go?" Women like a man with a plan.
  
  
• Never suggest going to a movie on a first date. Take her to dinner. It allows time to get to know each other.
  
  
• A woman should be picked up on the first date unless she insists on meeting you there. Make sure you are there to greet her. In other words, be on time.
  
  
• After the date, a woman should always be escorted home. If she insists she is ok, walk her to her car. If she is taking a cab, make sure that you hail it, put her in it, and offer her cab fare.
  
  
• No sneakers allowed on a date unless you are playing tennis, going sailing, or going to the gym.
  
  
• Don't talk about yourself, your divorce, or your ex-girlfriend all night long.
  
  
• Always pay for the first few dates.
  
  
• If you flipped over her, both had a great evening, think she could be the one, send her gorgeous flowers the next day. Start the romance going.
  
  
• Don't be sexually pushy on the first date....or any other time. Things should happen naturally and you will know when you are both ready.
  
  
• If she has kids, make sure that you ask all about them. Ask to see if she has pictures.
  
  
• If you really like her, ask her out on a second date within a couple of days. Keep it flowing.